I have had visions of creating the perfect backyard for my children - I have started many things and have loads of great ideas. I want it finished before they leave home!! My thinking really was that they would go and play outside for hours and hours and never need "MUM!"......but that is just not going to happen! I also realise that lazing in my garden in a sunny spot with a great book for hours is not going to happen either!! Guilt would make me feel I should weed or tidy up or hang out more washing or something. Today I realised that a perfect garden oasis with contented children playing and laughing and a relaxed mother watching adoringly is really the dream!! Relaxation I discovered is taking my son and another little boy I look after on Fridays to the park about 500m away. Here I was able to lie in the sun and look up at the sky trough the trees and just relax. The boys played happily on the playground and were then content to find sticks and dig around trees. No phones, no washing to put out, no computer, no weeds to look at, no adults to talk to and no more grand garden plans!!!!
Many people blame their parents for needing therapy. How many parents blame their kids for needing therapy!! I might be the first as there are some things I just don't get. Finally, I have had the girls making their own beds for the past week. This morning I had a bit of time so I went into their room and made their beds for them. Daughter No.2 searched me out and was really p......d off that I had made her bed. She had me mess it up so she could make it again! And I didn't even mess it up well - she had to mess it some more before she could remake it!! Lesson learned - always ask if you are allowed to make your childrens beds!!!!